I hope to get some of these out the door, but in the meantime this gets some of the value of these drafts.
- Everyone has opinions on education and parenting because everyone went through some version of it, but what we remember is one-sided
- EA is not a privilege, we’re asking people to do stuff that’s costly
- Kids are poor relative to their parents
- Asking questions about what happened does not mean you disbelieve the person
- How can you tell when you’re being frozen out because you’re a critic vs because your criticism is bad?
- Are demanding ideas more or less likely to get adopted? Mormonism is both demanding and popular
- Social justice people are on red alert for patterns that trolls use, for good reason because they’ve been exposed to a lot of this. But this also makes it hard to do normal good things like “look at both sides” or “ask questions”
- When is it OCD vs valid concern vs something else? Simulation hypothesis, basilisk, Pascal’s wager
- Programmers are way more into EA than social workers and Oxfam staff
- Sacrifices that don’t look like sacrifices: living in a non-preferred country, not having kids, being polite to people you’re annoyed with
- Lots of EA org leaders are parents
- People have radically different views on what constitutes good parenting
- Roles like moderator, board member, opening speaker: seem cool but people don’t actually want them, they’re costly
- Give few commands to kids, and follow up immediately when you do
- Don’t reward outcomes you don’t want, in pets or children
- Don’t do things that would cause society to collapse
These all look amazing, and I would love to read all of them!
If you want extra encouragement or feedback, I would be most interested in reading (in order): 1, 3, 4, 11, 7, 9, 5, 10, 16.
For (2), do you mean “is a privilege”, in the sense that only some people can afford to do what’s being asked? I’m trying to see another meaning but not getting there. (Also, either way, it’s a post I’d like to read!)
In order (but all close together), the ones I’d be most interested to read are: 2, 11, 10, 13, 16
I found this a bit confusing as well, but then I tried to reframe it with an alternative: is donating a kidney a privilege? Well, it does require some amount of privilege; a prospective donor must be in reasonably good physical and financial health to endure the procedure and the disruption. But saying that donating a kidney is a privilege sounds off the mark, such that I wouldn’t consider it useful; the connotations it pulls in don’t seem to fit.
I meant “it’s not a benefit”; e.g. one of my first posts about GWWC was why there weren’t more women members. If women had less access to a benefit like earning money, that would be bad. But it’s less of a problem if fewer people from a lower-earning group have signed up to *give away* their money.
(There are parts of EA that do feel like a benefit to me, mostly connecting with people I wouldn’t otherwise have met.)