We’ve hosted au pairs for the last 4.5 years, and I have mixed feelings about it. But I want to lay out some things that I think are misunderstood about the program.
Book review: The Anthropology of Childhood
I read David Lancy’s “The Anthropology of Childhood: Cherubs, Chattel, and Changelings” and highlighted some passages. A lot of passages, it turns out.
On scruffy spaces
Now that I’ve actually tried it, I see more of the backstory behind these photos. Know who assembled, maintained, and photographed these rooms? Adults.
You have more than one goal, and that’s fine
When I make a decision, it’s better if I’m clear about which goal I’m pursuing.
How much do kids cost? The first 5 years
We’ve spent about $106,760 in cash, or about $150,000 including lost earnings.
Parenting philosophy
I try to focus on what makes life better in the short and medium term rather than trying to mold my children’s personalities or futures. Most of that is already done by genetics.
Layers of animal advocacy
I’ve been reading a lot about animal advocacy lately and thinking about layers of it. I’ve been vegetarian and nearly-vegan in the past but currently am doing nothing at all to help animals.
Cost comparison of childcare
Daycare • au pair • nanny
Gift ideas for age 0 -2
that won’t drive anyone crazy
Preventing child sexual abuse
I think it’s important to know the actual risks, because in the past programs have been aimed at preventing risks that weren’t particularly likely.